When I was a kid and even when I was teaching one of my favorite children's books was 'Alexander and the Terrible Horrible No Good Very Bad Day'. If you aren't familiar with the book basically its the story about a little boy who isn't having a very good day and all through out the book he says he wants to move to Australia. At the end of the story his mother says she's pretty sure they have bad days even in Australia. My dad talked about that book in his speech at our wedding reception, I'm pretty sure everyone got a good laugh out of it. He said I wasn't suppose to take the book literally. Yeah...yeah :) Alexander's mom was right some days are bad, even in Australia. Yesterday was one of those days for me.
In about 20 days I will have been here for 1 year. Its so crazy to think about that because in some ways I feel like it was just yesterday I arrived! But even though i've been here for almost a year its still just as overwhelming, scary and exciting today as it was a year ago. This last year has completely changed my life! I've spent the most time away from the only home i've ever known, this is the longest i've gone without seeing family and friends, I've done a lot of things I never thought I would, tried lots of new things, made new friends, started a new job where I had no idea what I was doing, and i'm pretty sure the best thing about the past year was meeting Ben, falling in love and oh, yeah getting married. Everyday I am so thankful to be exactly where I am and so thankful for the many blessings. I know that this is exactly where I and now we (Ben & I) are suppose to be. I know God has great things planned for us. I love Australia. I love the weather, the beautiful scenery, the people, the culture and diversity. There are so many wonderful things here. I'm not saying I don't love the US, because I do and I miss it everyday, but life is just different here. In a lot of ways I feel like life is a little bit simpler here and people here enjoy their lives more and are happier. Maybe thats just my perspective of life in Australia, or maybe it just took me leaving the US to realize some of these things. I'm excited that one day our children will have the benefit of having parents from 2 countries and they will get to experience all the great things that Australia and the US have to offer.
Yesterday I had to go to the RTA to get a new driver's license. Let me just say that the process of changing your name sure isn't easy. I love Ben's last name and I'm so excited to take his name but the process sure is long! And with us I feel like we have so much "extra" stuff to do with visa's etc. I've tried to go to the RTA 2 times before yesterday but needed some more paperwork both times. Well long story, short I walked away without a license for the 3rd time and in tears thanks to the extremely rude lady that pretty much yelled at me right there in the RTA. Its just frustrating, mostly because i've been to the RTA 3 different times and every time they tell me something different or that I need something else. I'm just getting the run around and I don't have time for it, I need a driver's license because mine is expiring soon! So I leave the RTA, get home and cry some more. I'm so thankful for my super sweet husband for knowing exactly what I need after a day like that. He and I were talking afterwards and I was telling him I know maybe getting so upset over a driver's license was silly but it really wan't about the driver's license. Even though i've been here almost for a year, its still hard. When you move to a new place and have to start over its really hard, but when you make that new place be a whole other country on another continent, well thats just about as hard as it gets. Think of it like this...think of your home, where you've always lived, you know how things work, where things are, you know familiar faces, you know what stores have certain things you're looking for, you know how to get places, you know how to renew the registration on your car, you know which restaurants you like, etc. I could keep going...basically everything that you've ever known as your "normal" doesn't apply anymore. You have to re-learn everything. Everything from the smallest little thing to what side of the road you drive on. Now i'm not saying its all impossible, a lot of the changes have been easy to adapt to and now they just seem like normal for me but sometimes I just miss the familiar. I miss things being easy and knowing how to do things. I'm so thankful for my cousin, you can ask her, over the last year i've sent her countless emails with questions on "life in Australia"...how do I do this or how do I get to this place. I know i'm not an Aussie and I never will be, but I don't really feel like a foreigner here. I feel like I fit in pretty well, but I guess its days like yesterday when i'm reminded that although I live here, i'm not an Aussie and i'll always be different. The way the women at the RTA talked about me not being from here and having to get paperwork from the US, it was just rude. I love Australia, I married and Aussie, I live here, I feel like i'm a contributing member of society here, I work here, pay taxes etc, but yet she made me almost feel bad for choosing to live here.
I'm not sure how long will be in Australia or if one day we'll move to the US (which of course I do hope we'll get to do one day for at least a period of time) or if we'll move somewhere completely different. Its hard sometimes letting go of how you thought your life would be. Never did I dream that I would live in another country and get married and possibly have kids. I always just assumed it would all happen in the US. But I wouldn't change how its happened for anything! Its more you just have to change your way of thinking, which I feel like i've had to do a lot over the last year. Just because things are different than you thought or expected isn't bad, its just different.
Some days are just harder than others, some days I miss home, my family and friends so much it hurts, some days I miss teaching so much I shed some tears but everyday I'm extremely grateful for all the blessings, changes and relationships i've made over the past year. I'm thankful for the things i've learned about myself and how strong I can be (even though there may be some kicking and screaming along the day). And everyday its completely worth it.
